The truth will set you free.
Or so they say.
Free from what? What are these proverbial chains that only honesty can break? Is this just another antiquated saying or is there wisdom in it?
We are told to tell the truth and never to lie, but for what? Growing up, it seems like more fun to go behind our parent’s backs and take part in the naughty side of life. Even in adolescence and throughout adulthood, hidden vices add an incomparable and even addictive type of thrill.
Mas masarap yung bawal as they say. The forbidden tastes better.
But is there virtue to honesty? Would things still be as fun if they were enjoyed in the light?
These questions play an odd role in the discussion of morality. Would shadow activities such as drug use and sexual deviance be considered “wrong” if they weren’t so hidden? The more people talk about an issue and share their stories, the less controversial things seem to become. This leads one to wonder whether morality is an inherent characteristic of an action or simply a cultural bias. It takes time to change the majority’s paradigm, but as the old gatekeepers pass away, the ideas and beliefs of the newer generations are given a chance.
What leads the way though? What is the prime instigator of this transition?
Honesty with one’s self – first and foremost. And then unbridled honesty with others.
That’s the first step to truly understanding the humanity of this world and one’s self.
A problem with being truly open though is the inherent vulnerability that comes along with it. Openness with even a slightly controversial topic will surely invite a slew of criticisms and critiques, especially if it disagrees with the status quo.
This is why the vast majority of people avoid being truly honest. It opens up the floodgates of criticism and places the ego in a drastically vulnerable position. It is easier to follow what others have done and stick to what they deem to be as normal rather than walking your own path. Opinions and ideas are only good if they can be liked and approved by others. This is the easy and comfortable route.
But if it is rooted in dishonesty, it damages the soul to no end.
Compromising one’s personal beliefs and convictions to appease the larger group is a terrible way of living. Forget the lies you may be telling others – those are forgettable.
The true disservice is dishonesty with one’s self.
It’s a crime not to live authentically. Stress and confusion is the ultimate outcome of an individual who denies himself the gift of true and honest expression.
Being sincere about one’s likes and dislikes, one’s point of views and feelings, is incredibly important to living a good life. The only way to get the things you really want in life is to be honest about it.
This not only applies to dreams and goals, but also to one’s flaws and downfalls. Acknowledging failures is incredibly important to true development and growth.
He who claims perfection is an incredible liar. And the true victim is himself.
Be honest with what you want, where you’ve been, what you’ve done, and who you are. Take in all the good along with the disgustingly bad. Be true not only to others, but especially to yourself.
I’m pretty fucked up from the all the porn I’ve watched – started when I was 9. I’ve gone to strip clubs and “massage parlors” before I even graduated high school. I fall hard for working girls and strippers. I’m an unemployed college dropout, living at home, with no income, and supported by my parents. I talk about big goals and dreams, but lack real persistence and discipline. I objectify women and I’m a little homophobic. I haven’t had a girlfriend for three years and I sometimes feel lonely.
Brutal honesty hurts. It really does. But it’s necessary.
In the larger scheme of things though, it’s no big deal. I’m still alive, I’m with family, and I enjoy my days.
Most importantly, I’m honest.
Will you be honest too?